We acquire some of the most important bits of knowledge we need in our lifetime during childhood. But as we grow older and venture out into the “real” world we unlearn or bury these pearls of wisdom in our pursuit to be well-established, successful adults. If we could somehow retain the innocence we are born with, we would not need to relearn the root of patience and happiness as adults.
As a child, I would spend hours outside running around my neighborhood with my friends, going on bike rides, creating games from imagination, exploring nature, and having epic water fights. I didn’t have to learn or ask myself how to be happy. I created my own happiness everyday through the simplest of things. A child can play for hours with strangers and not think twice, lay in the grass alone staring at the clouds smiling, ask endless questions to gain clarity, speak their mind without worry or thought, and forgive just as easily.
A child is the center of his/her own universe, whether it is viewed as small or large. Adults, however, often forget how to be the center and still be open to others at the same time. We become more guarded and lose ourselves to things that aren’t necessarily important or positively impactful in our lives.
Look though the eyes of a child and learn these 7 lessons:
Acceptance – Be kind, and respect others not because you need or want something from them but because it’s the right thing to do and expect the same in return.
Spend Time Alone – Become comfortable with yourself. Enjoy spending time with yourself. Smile and laugh when you’re alone. Be happy with yourself because that’s when you can truly enjoy the company of others.
Ask Instead of Assume – Ask questions. Don’t assume you know the answer or somebody’s story. Base your perceptions on facts. The more questions you ask, the more knowledge you acquire.
Voice Your Opinion – You have thoughts and opinions: voice them. Let others know what you are thinking and who you are. Live your life through your words not someone else’s by being true to yourself and your beliefs.
Forgive Easily- Don’t hold on to disagreements or grudges. They will only anchor you down. Forgive and move on to the things that bring you joy. Kids can be screaming and then a heartbeat later laughing, having already forgotten what they were angry about. It makes more sense to be happy than hold on to the anger.
Resilience – In many ways children are stronger than most of us adults. They can digest and handle things better than we can. Maybe this is due to their innocence or the fact that they know they are not alone.
Ask For Help – Children will ask for help whenever they need it whether they know you or not. If you don’t know the why or how, ask. The answer will always be no and the knowledge won’t be gained if the question is never asked.
As we grow older, we definitely grow wiser. But if we could retain the innocence of our youth, our world would be so much more inviting. Be resilient, bounce back and learn from rejection or failures. If something is important to you, don’t take no for an answer. Absorb knowledge like a sponge and be as fearless as your 5-year old self who believed that he/she was capable of any and everything.
Do you make assumptions that hinder your relationships?
Do you hold grudges to the determent of your well-being?
Do you need help finding your voice?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, email me at email@example.com.
Christa Zamel is a certified personal lifestyle coach. Her style of coaching is not simply about talking, it's about living. It's tying verbal, spatial, and emotional threads together into one body so that inner and outer selves mirror each other.