We all want to believe that we are the masters of our universes. But the reality is that living life on your own terms is much harder than it may seem. Whether we are conscious of it or not, people and experiences often times dictate our thoughts and actions. We are influenced by so many things, both tangible and intangible that sometimes we end up living a life that's not ours at all. The key is to be mindful of this and take action the moment you feel your life is no longer yours.
Here are 10 tips to help you live life on your terms.
Believe in yourself - Don't get swayed by others. Everyone will have an opinion but the most important one is yours.
Heed advice but make your own decisions - Those close to you care and will offer advice and support when needed. Weigh all information and then come to your own conclusions.
Stay strong - Know that there will be those people who will put you down or try to get you to conform. Your individuality scares them. Surround yourself with people who support and motivate you.
Know yourself - The better you know yourself the easier it will be to choose how you live.
Don't be a follower - Choose your path. One that you are comfortable with and happy to walk alone.
Define your world - What do you want your world to look like? What's important to you? What type of people do you want to be surrounded by?
Practice gratitude – Appreciate what you have, the people you love, and yourself. Being grateful keeps you grounded and helps you see what’s important and what’s not.
Be mindful - Feel the moment. The more aware you are of the moment, the more clearly you will be able to see your world and determine if you are living your life or someone else’s.
Listen – Listen to your heart, your mind, your voice, and instinct. Your voice should be the strongest and loudest in your world.
Own it - It's your life. Don’t make excuses or apologize for how you live. Own it!
You get one life so to allow it to be dictated by anyone other than yourself should not even be an option.
Christa Zamel is a certified personal lifestyle coach. Her style of coaching is not simply about talking, it's about living. It's tying verbal, spatial, and emotional threads together into one body so that inner and outer selves mirror each other.